My first blog, Darsha's Happenings, was posted on my website on April 8, 2025. I can’t believe it’s been a year, and this is BLOG #25. I had a lot of hesitation about beginning a blog, but what helped is I set guidelines for myself. I committed to writing at least two blogs a month for a year and I did it! All my blogs are posted on my website. If you missed any of them, I invite you to go back and read them. 

When I was considering starting a blog and much of the time I wrote the blogs, I didn’t know I would be a published author. It’s still surreal to say, “My book, Adventures in Love…” A lot has changed in a year! Because so much has changed in the last year, it’s time for me to PAUSE & REFLECT to determine my next ACTION.

Story time, ya'll should know by now I enjoy a story. I grew up being told not to quit and rarely being allowed to quit anything. There was so much negativity attached to QUITTING. There were always conversations that started like this, “You know if you start this you have to finish it. There is no quitting.” Talk about pressure! This caused me to be involved in a lot of things a lot longer than I wanted to and much longer than it served me. Even in early adulthood, the lesson of not being a quitter kept me from pursuing some things because I had the belief that if I started something I wasn’t allowed to quit until the end or until some groundbreaking event occurred.  

For years now, I have lived by the principle - I am allowed to change my mind, and if that means no longer being involved in something, I give myself permission to stop. Before you tune out of this conversation and say, “Darsha this is a you thing. I don’t have a problem in this area,” pause and ask yourself some questions. Reflect on the things you do and the relationships you have. Is it time to stop some things? Is it time to end some relationships? How do you determine when a relationship or an activity has met its expiration date?

Don’t get me wrong, I am not suggesting that anyone haphazardly or impulsively quit. And if you know me, you’d recognize that I am a very committed person. I am very thoughtful about what I commit to and I periodically evaluate my commitments. I am very careful to ensure I do not overcommit myself. Remember the boundary of saying no? If you missed the blog Boundary series on 2/8/2026 and 2/22/2026 or need a refresher, please take the time to read them. Also, you can watch the three part video series on Boundaries on my YouTube Channel. 

There is nothing wrong with changing your mind. What experiences have you had that shaped your belief about changing your mind? Is the belief still helpful? As we grow, have different experiences, and are presented with various opportunities, our desires and interests might change, which warrants a time of evaluation and possibly adjustments.  

Here’s my time, I need to pause and reflect before I Take Action. As of right now, I am not quitting anything. I need to make some adjustments. I am being intentional about taking some time to create a new plan. There are so many things I want to do, and I cannot do them all at once. As much as I love my work, I also love to have balance in my life. I am taking the month of April off from writing blogs and Thoughtful Notes. May is Mental Health Awareness month so I will be back to celebrate the month I just don’t know in what capacity. I’m sure when I return in May, I will have some news to share about next steps in my career. Let’s be clear the passion for MENTAL HEALTH & RELATIONSHIPS REMAIN!

Haha, I’m not going off to live in a cave off the grid. I will still post some mental health and relationship content on my Facebook page and YouTube channel. Maybe I’ll share some updates on what I’m working on during the month of April. If you came to my Virtual Workshop last month, then you might have some ideas of what I might be working on. Stay Tuned. Follow, subscribe, visit my website to stay in the loop on what’s coming up next for me!

In the meantime, remember We Can Do Hard Things! Changing your mind can be hard, especially if you are concerned about what people might say or think. But remember, your life, your decision. Ask yourself, “Why am I continuing to do this?” Then based on your answer, make the decision that is best for you! TAKE ACTION!

Until Next Time Take Care,

Darsha D!